Speaking from experience, it’s all too easy to be a good friend when life is going well. When there are fun times to share and their support isn’t needed. Only when life throws your nearest and dearest a curveball will your friend credentials be truly tested. As a friend, you need to be there in times of need as well as times of joy. When your loved one is suffering, whether this is because of an acute trauma like losing their job, or whether it is a more chronic mental health condition like depression or anxiety, you need to be present and be part of their much-needed support network. Read on to find out how you can be the best friend that you can be.
Don’t think that lecturing your best friend will help them. From an outsider’s point of view, a situation may appear very clear. However, when you are in the throes of something traumatic, you need a listening ear rather than a judgemental lecture. Make sure that you are present and always accessible over the phone. Your pal might be at risk of isolating themselves, so it’s important that you pop over for tea or coffee. They might not want to chat about their problems, and instead, they might want to discuss something mundane like the weather. Let them dictate the conversation. By giving them this control, they may then open up to you. Unburdening themselves and having you as a sounding board can alleviate some of their worries and stress.
You might be keen to stage an intervention if you can see a situation becoming worse. If you know that your friend is struggling with addiction, you must wait until they ask for help. ANA Treatment Centre specialises in rehabilitation, but this rehab will only have a chance of long term success if your pal recognises that they need help. Thrusting it upon them will result in rebellion and resentment. They may cut you off and keep themselves hermit-like in their existence. However difficult it may be, you must allow them to hit rock bottom and ask for help.
Keep Inviting Them Out
You know that your friend may always decline an invitation to head out for drinks, go for dinner or catch a movie. However, it won’t always be this way. Although they are going through something that means that they are less likely to be social, they will still appreciate the offer of an invitation. Trust me! If you stop asking them out or including them, you can compound their feelings of being alone. Instead, keep lines of communication open.
If your friend isn’t keen on going out because it heightens their worries or they are anxious in social situations, take a takeaway over and enjoy being in one another’s company. Forget about their problems, watch a box set and chill. They don’t need a constant reminder of their issues and may appreciate some time to think about something else for a while. If they do feel ready to go out, take it slowly and be their support at all times. If they want to head home early, get them back safely and don’t make an issue of it.
Ultimately, just be as good a friend as you can. A little goes a long way and you never know when you are going to need a friend yourself.
Until next time ♡
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