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How To Find Your Confidence

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Confidence is a bit of a strange thing. It’s something that we’re not born with a concept of, and yet we have it. Take notice of young children before the ages of 3-5, observe how much confidence they have. They’re fearless and don’t worry about what people think. Imagine if we could all be that way again?

However, society, through no real fault of its own – it’s basically conditioning, soon knocks it out of us at some point or another. This is, in most cases not on purpose, though in some cases it is, then confidence becomes this big thing that we’re all seeking to have more of.

Some people appear wildly confident on the outside, but they feel like they’re dying on the inside, whilst others simply struggle so much with an obvious lack of confidence that they can barely function. I personally, fall into the latter category. 

Of course, there’s another group which is where most people find themselves, and that’s the group that functions well within society and feels generally pretty confident in some areas but knows they feel less so in others.

What tends to happen with a lot of people in this group, though, is that they become comfortable and don’t really live in a way that makes them truly happy and fulfilled – simply because they haven’t found the true confidence, and that’s confidence within themselves.

So in this post, I’ll share with you some of the techniques I use that I find really helpful, and you might too if it’s something that you’re struggling with!

Acknowledge What Makes You Feel Insecure

The first step is getting honest with yourself about why don’t feel confident. For example, it may be something physical such as your weight or even your teeth that you’re not happy with. In this case, if it’s really affecting your life it’s not vain to do something about it! In fact, it’s just looking after yourself.
So go to the weight loss classes or get the
All on 4 dental implants if that’s what you need.  It could also be something emotional like you feel you’re not capable enough to work at a certain level. Whatever it is, you need to find what makes you not feel confident.

Get Outside Your Comfort Zone

Confidence is something you build on by doing the things you don’t think you can do. The more you do something, the more competency you build. And the more competent you become, the more confident you become. I know, I know… easier said than done. But trust me, the more you start to realise you can do more than you give yourself the credit for the better your self-esteem becomes.

Surround Yourself With The Right People

The people in our lives often play a big role in our emotional state! However, if we’re choosing to have them in our lives, then we’re essentially choosing our emotional state. We can’t then blame them for our choices because we have control. So, if you have people in your life who lower your confidence, then it’s time to change that. Surround yourself with people who appreciate you and see you for what you are. An amazing and wonderful person.

Learn To Love Yourself

True confidence is nothing more than accepting yourself for who you are, fully. It’s not about being perfect or better than anyone else. But acknowledging and knowing that you’re not these things but are still beautiful and capable. This can only happen once you learn to love yourself – once you do, you’ll see that your confidence soars.

Until next time ♡


  1. Ahh this is such a lovely post Laura! Im not convinced I’m awfully confident, however im not fazed by what people say or think of me. I do what I want and I do it in style, love me or leave me. Personally I feel more confident after reading self help books, I loved “You’re A Badass”, and it just makes you realise how insignificant everything else is. Loved this post!! xx

  2. Confidence is something I have struggled with my entire life, and I doubt it’s going to ever get much better. I am doing as much as I can to try and improve it and make myself go out of my comfort zone. All I think to myself is that in a number of hours, I will be at home in a safe space, and it tends to work. I have removed any negative person from my life too. If someone is bringing you down, no matter how much the other side of them is, they’re not worth being around.

    Aycan //